I don’t get caught in the headlights that often. I may be confused most of the time, or curious depending on how you look at it, but generally nothing much surprises me. Last night at work, I totally was blind-sighted by what a coworker said to me.
This coworker is someone whom I’ve chit chatted with frequently, we’re both quirky and into similar things. I don’t connect with many people in work environments and this is probably one of the reasons why. Jeff (is what i’m calling him) and I were joking around about something pointless, about Flo Rida (the singer) to be specific. Out of nowhere he brings up the subject of gay people and that’s where the rest of my night felt off.
Mind you… I don’t get into politics, religion, personal philosophies or anything highly personal at work… EVER. He brought up the subject of gay parenting in response to a joke that I made about Flo Rida. (BTW the joke had nothing to do with sex, sexuality or anything at all.) He starts mid rant talking to me about how I “don’t want to know his opinion on gay parents”.
He was right, I didn’t want to know his opinion but he felt free to air it, much to my displeasure. He said, “It’s like when gay people have kids to prove the world something.”
At this point FULL DEER IN THE HEADLIGHTS. Yes… It did jump from one subject to the next, leaving my head spinning with trying to clarify exactly how we got there and where the hell we were going with this conversation.
“Yeah, you don’t want to hear my opinion on gay people. They want special privileges and have kids cause they feel that they have something to prove to the world.”
He continued by saying something along the lines of “and I don’t want them rubbing it in my face, and by that I mean… go do what you do but I don’t want to have to look at your boyfriend.” Also saying that if gay wasn’t a choice than smoking weed isn’t also a choice.
He based his opinion on gay people by telling me about wolves. “Do you know what happens when one gay wolf tries to hump another wolf in the wild?” “The pack kills it.” “Kill em Kill em all.” He said as he chuckled.
The entire time I have this face like I suddenly and strongly smelled bullshit. I was incapable of speaking. Here was a person.. I generally got along with and he’s one of THEM.
I may have mumbled something along the lines of “You don’t really believe that do you?” To which he replied, “Yeah.. I’m really protective about my beliefs.” Trying to ask him critical thinking questions was going to be pointless… not to mention… Where the fuck to start.
Going full advocate on his ass wouldn’t have gotten me anywhere and the conversation was already at a terrible awkward point. I slowly walked off, not having anything constructive to say and still very much trying to figure out how and why what just happened… just happened. I saved my breath this time, next time I’m going to shut it down, shut that shit down.